Ask The Pioneer: Rewarding Relationships And Gossiping Teens

Hey there! Every month the Pioneer staff  is dedicating an article to answering questions that students may have, giving them a forum to receive answers to the toughest questions in a discreet, comfortable way. You can become a part of these discussions by emailing your questions, ideas or thoughts to slapioneer@gmail.com.  So please feel free to join in and get some positive, spiritually based feedback to your inquiries from your student newspaper.

Q:I am a freshman in high school and am looking to make new friends and want to know what qualities I should look. Also, what are some good tips for making new friends?

A: Firstly when looking for friends you must consider what things you value and are striving to achieve. Then,take those values and goals look for people who value those same things. For example, if you are a spiritual person and value ethics, then you should want to pick people who have those same moral standards and spiritual outlook. Basically, when searching for friends, try to surround yourself with people who can help you in positive ways. In the bible it says that true friends are loyal and will stick closer than a brother(proverbs 18:24). But one thing to remember and cherish is that the Godly give good and sound advice to their friends but people with ulterior motives will lead you into trouble (Proverbs 12:26).

A key indication of a potentially healthy friendship is the whether the person is respectful to others. If people are respectful to their elders, family and friends then they will be to you as well. Also if they are positive about life and God then they will be more of an encouragement to you as you strive to achieve your goals and live life to the fullest. If a person is attentive, caring, encouraging, and respectful of the people they love the most then that person is more than able to be a good friend. If not, then that person will be more likely to bring their “baggage” with them, making the friendship unbalanced and unhealthy from the start. It takes two to be friends and to make any relationship work properly!

Q: I have been accused of being a gossiper, and I don’t think that I am! What is gossip? Does it make me a bad person if I participate in it?

A: Gossip is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. When you gossip about anything you are spreading things that may not be true. So rather than spread things or entertain bad talk you should walk away or stand up for the person in question. In the end you will be better off ignoring gossip because it will not affect your mindsets or views of other people with ideas that may not be true. This is outlined clearly in Proverbs 20:19 “A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much”. Also, another thing to keep in mind is what goes around comes around. By standing up for someone, other people will see you as a person of trust and value and a person to look up to. Later on if you are the subject of malicious gossip someone is more likely to stand up for you and point out your good character and stop the gossip against you. Do unto others as you would like them to do to you. Matthew 7:12.

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About JayJay Sierra

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Posted on January 31, 2012, in Spiritual Life, Top Stories and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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